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Changing Habits by Baby Steps

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I always love the New Year with the New Year’s Resolutions…but in many cases, people only last for a short time before giving up on them(myself included).  I read recently of an idea that instead of just having New Year’s Resolutions aka habits, every month is a new chance to start anew.  For the first time, I finally am seeing results and get excited for the new month to start so I can start a new habit.  In July I did the Elimination Diet for the whole month.  August I did De-cluttering, and now in September, I have been concentrating on my bridal floral business…making up new ideas and stock.  I think in October, I’m going to take French lessons online…this has not been successful for me in the past…but if I tell myself, “it’s only for a month”, then I will stick with it.

A friend of mine introduced me to “Tiny Habits” by Dr. BJ Fogg…(http://tinyhabits.com/) lately and it’s a great way to introduce new habits to your regimen.  This would be that one extra baby step towards a daily regimented habit…drinking more water, exercise, flossing your teeth, etc.  You pick three for the week and they aren’t supposed to take a long time(60 seconds or so).  You need to sign up by a Friday and complete your habits by Sunday in order to start them on Monday.  Every day of the week you will receive an email and you must respond to it.

I signed up for this week and picked three habits:

a. After I wake up, I will drink a glass of water.

b. After I turn my computer off at night, I will do two sit-ups.

c. After I lay down at night, I will think of one thing for which I am grateful.

I usually am not very good at “baby steps”, I always want to forge ahead and more often than not, it burns me out and I get bored with it or tired of it.  Should be an interesting week.

til next time…Eva

Where to Start (Part 2)

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Back again…have you made up your list? I made mine up and I don’t know about you, but I got a little miserable, irritated and disgusted while doing mine…
So, now what?
Well, there are a couple of things you could do…

1. One thing to do is on another piece of paper, write down all of the items that are small…things that won’t
take long to do. On another piece of paper write the ones that would take longer. And on the last piece of
paper, write the ones that would involve several steps.

2. Write down the items that if you got rid of them, your life would be a lot better.

3. Circle the items that irritate you but don’t have to be done right away. The remaining items would then
be the items that you really want to get cleared away.

OK, now you have a list of items you really want taken care of…now you go through each of those items and ask yourself the question, “Now what?” What would you have to do to get that issue taken care of? Write down exactly what you have to do. If it will take several steps, then write the steps.

Make it into a viable checklist and you are now ready to go…take the first item on your list and do something now, today. Cross it off…Hang this list up somewhere you can see it and make an effort to work on it daily if possible.

Naturally, some of your list items will take quite a bit of time…break them up into baby steps so that it doesn’t become too overwhelming. When you have completed a step, pat yourself on the back and treat yourself in some way…good job!

If you notice, there are so many people who profess to be an “expert” and are advertising for your attention and money. The one thing I keep emphasizing to my daughter plus reminding myself as well, it that you need to start thinking for yourself…and the reality is that you need to become the expert of YOU. Your body isn’t just like someone else, your thoughts, your desires, your basic needs…all are yours alone.
So by starting your journey, you will gradually attract the people you need, the resources and the strength to move forward. The more you learn about yourself, the stronger you become.

til next time…Eva

Where to Start? (Part 1)

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Where to start? Basically you could start from anywhere and add on to a daily practice with baby steps so that you don’t burn out.
But, what if you are in overwhelm and don’t know where to start?(I’ve been there and still get that way!). One way is to get yourself s cheap notebook(I’ll be doing this along with you…I just picked up one at the dollar store, nothing fancy though I probably will decorate the front of it shortly 🙂 )

On the first page, put the date on so that you know when you are starting your journey. The first thing I suggest is to make yourself a “What am I putting up with” or “What is irritating me?” list. When you know all the areas in your life that you are just “putting up with” or gives you irritation, you have a list.

OK, what exactly are you putting up with in all areas of your life? If you want, I usually start with the basics of my living space. To give an example of some items I have on my list for my living space:

a. The front door lock..it sticks and it is difficult to unlock/lock it.
b. The living room curtains.
c. The cutlery drawer has too much stuff in it that I don’t use…and it hard to close.
d. Window screens in the living room need to be repaired/replaced.
e. Downstairs needs to be majorly de-cluttered.

Does that give you an idea? Once you’ve done your living quarters, then you tackle the other areas of your life…some suggestions are:

1. Physical Health – diet, water, exercise, weight, etc.
2. Personal Appearance – hair, clothes, shoes, eyeglasses, etc.
3. Work – your job, etc.
4. Emotional – spouse/so, children, parents, family, friends, etc.
5. Financial – bills, savings, budget, etc.
6. Desperate needs you have
7. Time Constraints – are you involved in too many activities that are putting you in overwhelm?
8. Clutter – physical, mental, time, etc.

Give yourself plenty of time to complete these lists for yourself. They will form a basis for you to follow in the days and weeks ahead. So find your notebook, a quiet spot and your favorite beverage, some soothing music perhaps and take some quality time to write your lists. I’ll be doing the same. And then when I come back, we will go over part 2.

til next time…Eva