Monthly Archives: December 2014

Simply Let Go



Vintage figurine, photo by Eva 2014

Christmas always seems to be the season of high expectations.  People expecting certain gifts and events to happen…expecting the “perfect” family Christmas gathering where everyone behaves and is loving to one another.  The expectation of gifting/receiving the “perfect” gift.  The expectation of many young women my daughter’s age of being proposed to and given the “perfect” engagement ring…and the list goes on.

Since I got my Reiki 1 attunement, I found I was(and still am)  overly irritated about almost everything.  My Reiki teacher told me to meditate on this and find out what lesson I had to learn.  After a while, the word “expectations” surfaced and when I pondered more, the whole concept of “letting go of expectations” hit me as my answer.

I realized then that I’d been spending most of my life “expecting” things to be different…and expecting people to behave a certain way.  And the realization that this has been going on for most of my life is humbling.  Expectations for a different life, different job, different financial status over the years…Almost being married 25 years and I have this whole time been expecting my husband to be the stereotype of what I expected husbands to act and be(thanks to the media, books, bits and pieces of men I have known)…and becoming more disappointed and irritated over the years that it wasen’t developing.  When, in reality, I should have been appreciating the good things about him that do exist.

I have also been irritated about work, my finances, house, clutter, weather, and the list goes on and on.  I know now that I have to let go.  Simply…Let….Go.  It’s not going to happen overnight.  It may not even happen in a year…but little by little, I am going to let go of the expectations I have about every facet of my life.  Do I know how to do this?  Not really.  My thought is that I will consciously have to concentrate on eliminating the expectations one by one.  Letting go of judgements of people and events.  Oh boy, I have my work cut out for me…

til next time…Eva


Ideas…writing them down


I have been reading a book by Barbara Sher entitled, “Refuse to Choose”…a book about people who are Scanners(more on that in another post).  There are so many “aha” moments in this book for me but the one I want to talk about today is  how to write ideas down.

This visualization is for when you have some quiet time…at least 10 minutes but I have been enjoying more.

Barbara Sher talks about visualizing that you are on a deserted island all by yourself.  You are safe.  You have plenty of food and a lovely place to sleep.  Nothing to worry about.  Your ship is coming in a few days.  There is no one around but you and no wild animals or natives to disturb you.  Just you, the sky, the sand and the sea.

Have a notebook and pen and close your eyes.  Try to keep your mind blank for a few minutes.   Eventually, ideas are going to come…just write them down.

I have been doing this for three days now and am amazed every time with some of the ideas that pop up in my thoughts.  In the beginning, I tell myself, “I am safe.  I am sitting enjoying looking at the sea and sky, the pure white sand that is so soft and inviting to sit on.  No one around to bother me.  I have plenty of food and drink for when I need it.  My ship is coming in a few days.  Nothing to worry about. I am safe.”

I start thinking to myself, “this is not going to work this time…”  then, bam…it just flows with ideas.  Sometimes it’s small things that are on my mind that I need to do but I write them down too.  Small things I worry about, I write them down.  I have had several ideas for possible business ventures that I never thought of before.

I had written before about James Altucher’s recommendation that we sit and write down 10 ideas every day.  Try this method of the island visualization…let me know if it works for you too.

Barbara Sher also has a website :    worth looking at…

til next time…Eva